Kate Winslet has announced that she wants to give up acting and be a stay at home mom for one year. She has two children ages 5 and 2, and she wants to "watch them grow and just enjoy the feeling of being very motherly."She doesn't just want to be "motherly", she wants to be "very motherly." I feel very guilty now that even though I spend 24-7 with my kids, I don't feel very "motherly" all the time. In fact, most of the time, I'm wishing someone competent enough to handle all three of them could swoop in at a moment's notice and give me a break. I guess when Kate's at work she daydreams about being with her kids, but when I'm with my kids, I daydream about how nice it would be to be a movie star, or just get away from them and get some sleep. Or maybe take a shower once in a while, a shower would be nice.
My mom's been telling me for a while to hire some help but I've been resisting because it's hard to find someone I can trust with my kids. Plus there's the cost, childcare for three doesn't come cheap. But I'm starting to get burned out doing it all by myself, I think that looking into finding a reliable babysitter might be a good idea, even if its just for a couple of hours a week.
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Everytime I read your blog, I find myself wondering how you manage with three. Even when I just had J, I got help via a babysitter a few hours a week. It took a LONG time to find someone, but it did a lot to preserve my sanity. And now with two kids, we have full time, live in help. I'm not saying it's the best solution for everyone, but every SAHM needs some help once in awhile. Once I stopped kidding myself that I could be supermom and do everything, I started feeling just a little less stressed out all the time.
Good luck, whatever you decide to do. :)
Sadaf, I'm so stressed I can't even go to the bathroom without an audience of kids watching me. I thought I could do it all by myself, but as they are growing older and getting more demanding, I'm finding no free time for myself at all. If I only had to watch the kids, maybe it would be doable, but if I don't do the laundry, cooking, and dishes, plus clean their butts, no one else would do it. The husband works late, so by the time he comes home all the dirty work has already been done by me, but he does help on the weekends. And he takes out the trash at night. I do need more help during the day though, someone to just take them to the park and push them on a swing would be great for starters.
Very motherly? I feel very guilty too! I know what you mean about needing more help...if I were by you, I would totally help you.
thanks Lisa, and here's my turn to say I don't know how YOU do it. You've got twice the number of kids as me!
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