tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post115207616320205883..comments2023-10-20T06:14:52.576-04:00Comments on CHIC MOMMY: The Mehndhi from HellChic Mommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12883236924370716198noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152137938532932882006-07-05T18:18:00.000-04:002006-07-05T18:18:00.000-04:00Atrocious hosts. Ugh.That's one thing I like about...Atrocious hosts. Ugh.<BR/><BR/>That's one thing I like about WASP weddings - everything stays on schedule (mostly) and it's SHORT!!Ameethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10312886958581237705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152135699130544572006-07-05T17:41:00.000-04:002006-07-05T17:41:00.000-04:00ugh, that sounds horrible! what a nightmare. this ...ugh, that sounds horrible! what a nightmare. this is why i refuse to go to random weddings of people i dont know and dont care about (i.e. my in-laws' friend's cousin's son). <BR/><BR/>my mehndi and wedding were pretty much on time. for the wedding i came in at 8:30 and my dad was upset with me b/c i was supposed to be there by 8. i dont even know when everyone prayed - i think before i came. dinner at 9. everyone was out 11:30.<BR/><BR/>for the valima, my family got lost coming to the reception hall. my dad and his van didnt get there till 10:30. but my in-laws had the good sense to not wait for them and fed the guests, saving some food for my family. i was really upset that my own family wasnt there for like half of my valima, but traffic/construction/no sense of direction combined cant be avoided sometimes....https://www.blogger.com/profile/08641974853033207241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152134969082152882006-07-05T17:29:00.000-04:002006-07-05T17:29:00.000-04:00rabia, lunch buffet sounds good. but it messes up ...rabia, lunch buffet sounds good. but it messes up dinner, because you end up eating lunch late and the kids wake up around 11:30 looking for a midnight snack.<BR/><BR/>August, I hate when Aunties tell you what and what not to do at your wedding. I didn't enjoy my wedding because I had too many opinions coming from every direction. I wasn't allowed to even get off the stage and mingle with guests. That would have been too bold. I was the oldest and I was the first of my parent's children to get married so maybe it was the inexperience. By the time my youngest sister got married, she was allowed to dance at her own mehndhi. And actually smile. She was so lucky!Chic Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12883236924370716198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152133822508793422006-07-05T17:10:00.000-04:002006-07-05T17:10:00.000-04:00rabiaiman: I agree with you. I don't have kids, bu...rabiaiman: I agree with you. I don't have kids, but even w/o kids, these dinner parties are annoying when you don't finish up until 1 in the morning, and it wasn't great conversation that was keeping you. It was the fact that you were suffering from a hunger headache and didn't know how far the closest Denny's would be. <BR/><BR/>Lunch buffet dates are a great idea. Maybe then everyone would eat by 6! :-)August Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10455196097380163282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152133397710421662006-07-05T17:03:00.000-04:002006-07-05T17:03:00.000-04:00That's a really good point. I always figured that ...That's a really good point. I always figured that time alone would have given me a chance to take pictures w/ friends but it's true, I'd have been angry if I had to sit alone for too long. I did lose him for about a minute later on (during or just after dinner) when somebody came to congratulate him and somehow walked off w/ him, I think to have him meet some other people or something. <BR/><BR/>I was pretty upset about that b/c we were standing together, I was talking to some people, and when I turned to him, he was gone. When I turned back around, the people I was talking to were gone . . . and I was completely alone for the moment . . . standing all dressed up in my desi wedding clothes, trying hard to strike that balance b/w an American bride that's having fun at her wedding and the Pakistani bride that is not letting her excitement show too much. <BR/><BR/>Right then, some auntie told me I should sit down ("beta tum baith jao"). I felt really embarrassed, and then when he got back, I let him have it. He apologized and didn't leave again. I hope I wasn't too mean, but boy was I embarrassed. <BR/><BR/>About the lipstick coming off, the woman who did my makeup said she was going to put something over my lipstick that would have the effect of keeping the lipstick on longer. So, I didn't even think about it while I was eating. The next day, at the valima, she told me she forgot to put it on me. <BR/><BR/>-And finally, this comment ends.-August Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10455196097380163282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152132185457585222006-07-05T16:43:00.000-04:002006-07-05T16:43:00.000-04:00honestly i feel this way with most of the parties ...honestly i feel this way with most of the parties we go to. be there at 6pm and dinner not served till 8-9 i think its rude strange and anything but hospitable. so many people complain about the timings but when parties come up at their own homes, its the same darn thing. there has got to be a break in the chain. i am just waiting for all these kids to have to go to school and HAVE to sleep by 7pm and then we HAVE to have earlier parties. i just really am so fed up by it to be honest. i think we should have parties from 6-9. get out by 9pm and home by latest 10. early enough to still wash kids and put them in bed by 10. i seriously think this keeping kids up when their cranky hungry and tired at these parties till 12 -1am is definitely some form of mild child abuse. ADULTS first CHILDREN who cares just shove them in a basement and let them rip apart each other some where. just really not the kind of socializing i want for my kids u know. there has got to be some other alternative. perhaps ONLY lunch buffet dates? i dont know. what do u think?rabiaimanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16328847144530070714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152128262526499052006-07-05T15:37:00.000-04:002006-07-05T15:37:00.000-04:00I feel bad for you, I hate going to weddings!Nice ...I feel bad for you, I hate going to weddings!<BR/><BR/>Nice touch with the picture. I love it!Leiloutahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11423130301990752458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152122399433373852006-07-05T13:59:00.000-04:002006-07-05T13:59:00.000-04:00I salvaged the shoes by wiping the grass and dirt ...I salvaged the shoes by wiping the grass and dirt off with baby wipes, but the pink metallic color is forever gone. But it's okay, the front of the sandal is still decent. <BR/><BR/>August, I think it's actually good that you didn't enter at 7:30 because then everyone would have gotten up to go pray and you would have been sitting on the stage all alone, or the with the women on the rag (you know what I mean). At least you got to kill time by talking to some people at the bar. On my wedding day, I was sitting alone most of the time during the dinner because my husband had planted himself as a permanent fixture infront of the buffet. I was so nervous about ruining my lipstick I barely ate anything. Looking back, that was dumb, I should have enjoyed the wedding more instead of trying to sit there and look pretty.Chic Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12883236924370716198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152118509448310802006-07-05T12:55:00.000-04:002006-07-05T12:55:00.000-04:00I would have been so bitter. I would have taken of...I would have been so bitter. I would have taken off way before you did. Those people suck.Bengali Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06030646989651589089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152114891301884912006-07-05T11:54:00.000-04:002006-07-05T11:54:00.000-04:00ohmigod, I would have completely lost it. Depite ...ohmigod, I would have completely lost it. Depite a lifetime of attending these events, I have yet to understand the rules of PT (Pakistani Time) hospitality.<BR/><BR/>Seems to me that if little kids are invited (and when are they NOT?) there needs to be a separate feeding schedule for them. At least lay out for some pizza or something..jeesh.<BR/><BR/>Sorry about your shoes - made me think of that episode of Sex in the City where Carrie's Manolos got stolen at the baby shower and she asked the host to compensate her. Personally, I'd be mad too if a good pair of heels gets ruined.<BR/><BR/>Bad idea having a tent party with the rain.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00856708363761638585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152109627552515232006-07-05T10:27:00.000-04:002006-07-05T10:27:00.000-04:00Btw, I feel sad for your shoes. I hope they're not...Btw, I feel sad for your shoes. I hope they're not ruined permanently.August Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10455196097380163282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15196744.post-1152108826195507732006-07-05T10:13:00.000-04:002006-07-05T10:13:00.000-04:00Oh my god, why even bother insisting people arrive...Oh my god, why even bother insisting people arrive on time when you'll do everything off-schedule anyway? And this whole treating the groom's family differently makes no sense at all. It isn't a good idea to rate your guests and give priority to some over others. Maybe it made some sense some time back in Pakistan where your own guests were essentially your own family, and the only real guests were the groom's side. It's ridiculous. <BR/><BR/>On my wedding day, my nikkah ceremony was supposed to be at 7:30-ish. I was down and ready to enter by about 7:45. Okay, I was a little late, but it wasn't so far off! Anyway, I was waiting to hear when I could start walking when the hotel coordinator (who was wonderful and acted like a wedding planner at times) came and told me that I couldn't enter because she was informed everyone "will now be praying" (maghrib)<BR/><BR/>Shoot me for complaining, but I was furious. They had to get everyone in the special room set aside for prayer. That took a little while (and don't forget the wudu, which takes time when so many people are doing it). Then they prayed. Then they all got back into the main reception room. <BR/><BR/>By the time I entered, it was 9:00. Maybe if I'd have been there at 7:30, none of this would have happened. But I was still upset about it. I didn't want to go back to my room b/c I kept thinking the prayer would be done any time . . . so, I sat at the hotel bar and chatted with people sitting there.August Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10455196097380163282noreply@blogger.com